I want to start by noting that this will be my last post about last week's election. I fully recognize that not all of my audience thinks the same way I do, and I appreciate that up until this point everyone has been so respectful in the comments. I hope you feel as though you have gotten the same in return from me. Our country is so splintered, now more than ever, and I do not want this to be turned into a place of further divide. This is supposed to be fun and it's supposed to be a respite from the daily grind and like most of you, I need that now more than ever. Starting tomorrow I will be back to talking about all things fashion, interiors and I even have another room reveal at the end of the week so I hope you will keep coming back.
That being said, I am heartbroken. I'm heartbroken in a way that I've never been heartbroken before. We've suffered very little unexpected loss in our family and even though things aren't always sunshine and roses, we live a sorrow-free life. Because of that this election has shaken me to my core. I feel such a strong sense of grief and last week it truly was overwhelming. I wasn't prepared for it and I certainly did not have the skills to deal with it.
I thought that I could read my way out of the darkness. I tried to read every piece there was about who the Trump supporters were / are. I tried to read about those who didn't vote. I looked into my own house and questioned whether I was living in a bubble that I really didn't know existed. I read so much that by Friday night I was actually having trouble seeing the TV and my eyes couldn't focus. I didn't feel any better and in fact it left me more conflicted.
I went to bed that night feeling so lost. Am I supposed to be a "good girl" and just accept the results. Am I supposed to fight? Am I supposed to try to understand? Should we leave the country we feel so betrayed by? What should I tell the kids? Does my defiance send the right or wrong message? I felt like I was taking in so many opinions on what I should be doing that I truly felt paralyzed, and I was left feeling even worse at the end of the week than I did at the beginning. I knew something had to change over the weekend and I woke up the next day with some clarity.
I realize we are all dealing with this in such different ways and I want to write about what I'm doing, mostly because I feel really motivated when I see how people are turning their grief into action. I'm also writing this because I want to feel accountable. It's so easy to get upset about something and then do nothing once you have some distance from it. I don't want that to happen. I am quickly making changes to my life so I won't have time become complacent. Do I think that one person can make a big difference? No. But I do think if we all take a look at our role in this society and make positive differences, than that will have a ripple effect that can actually affect this country.
Okay, so what am I doing?
The first thing I did is disconnect from social media. I deactivated my Facebook page and I took every news / social app off my phone except for Instagram (which is really a positive place for me to go). I spent the weekend with news off and I'm allowing myself 30 minutes of the New York Times each day. I stopped reading editorials and I started reading a novel. I replaced cable news with sitcoms. Yes, it feels just about as good as it sounds.
The second thing I did was donate. These are a list of organizations that need help and I want to be there for them. I'm donating all of my proceeds (past and future) of the #Bossladies brand to these groups and for those of you who can do the same, I encourage you to do so. There is nothing more boss than helping others when they need it the most and that's what I want to do.
Right now I feel such a call to action and I want to be surrounded by people who feel the same. To that end I booked my ticket to DC for the Woman's March on Washington. I'm going with my sister and friends and just the idea of it is getting me through the day. I've never felt compelled to march in Washington before but I certainly do so now.
The last thing I'm doing is a big one and I'm not quite sure how it will play out but I've decided to dust off my law license and try to work for those who need it most. I'm going to try to find a part time, volunteer position and really dedicate my time to working for those who are going to be the most impacted by this election. I've been doing some research on my own, but if any of you know a pro-bono that's in need of an attorney who is willing to work for free, please email me. I'm going to keep my design business running (albeit at a slower pace) but I think this will be a REAL way that I can make a difference.
I'm going to leave you all with this quote. I heard it on the radio over the weekend and it was exactly what I needed to hear. I hope that this resonates and motivates some of you in the same way that it did me.
Love and peace to you all. Xx